Finding a Soul Mate
Being matched with the right person should be looked at like any other goal you set for yourself. When you are looking to buy a home or a car, you don't settle for the first one that comes your way. Finding a soul mate should be the same; make a plan with steps to attain your goal.
If you are miserable about yourself or your dating life, you will only attract the same type of person, resulting in more despair. Before you can find a great partner, you must be happy and confident about whom you are and firm in your beliefs so that you can attract someone with the same.
Doing a personal inventory is the first step. Make a list of what you are seeking from the matchup and a list of "can't stands." Never settle for a person that possess one of your "can't stands," because it will only sour the relationship. You will see that once you have written your goals for a life partner that in between what you want and won't tolerate there is a lot of wiggle room to find someone to love.
Take a look at the people you surround yourself with; are they successful, confident, self aware? These are the matchmaking qualities you will want to look for in your date. If you present yourself as a broken waif, you will attract a broken waif as well and this will not make for a fairytale ending.
If you are unsure of yourself, do some work before you attempt to get into the dating scene. Find ways to socialize that incorporates your passions and hobbies such as joining a wine tasting group if that is your thing, or if skiing is your passion then go to singles ski lodges. The more you have in common the better off you will be. So analyze yourself honestly to see if you are ready to meet the caliber of person with whom you want to date. The work you do will pay off tenfold in the end.
Posted at 12:11 PM on May 7, 2008 By 5StarDating.com
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